*If this is your first time reading my blog...read Struck Down But Not Destroyed from January first!
There are many things that can help with the healing process of any hurt. When grieving a deceased family member or friend the hurt is impossible to explain. While grieving you might feel tired, sad, cry at any given moment, feelings of denial, forget things, not care to see friends, feel extremely drawn to family, feel lethargic, not care about looking great: throw hair in a pony tail, not feel like bathing =P, simple to no make-up. HOWEVER, the beautiful thing is Jesus gives us the power to get through this difficult time.
There are many things that can help with the healing process of any hurt. When grieving a deceased family member or friend the hurt is impossible to explain. While grieving you might feel tired, sad, cry at any given moment, feelings of denial, forget things, not care to see friends, feel extremely drawn to family, feel lethargic, not care about looking great: throw hair in a pony tail, not feel like bathing =P, simple to no make-up. HOWEVER, the beautiful thing is Jesus gives us the power to get through this difficult time.
Here are some things that did and still are helping me heal.
Praying to God who loves us so much! He comforts us and gives us an indescribable peace in any situation. When you have a relationship with Christ you can talk to him at ANYTIME, ANYWHERE, & about ANYTHING!
Reading God’s Word, the Bible. The Bible teaches us the truth about everything. God’s Word also helps us to put our situation into perspective. It is so very important that we read the Bible daily. Think of it this way, when you are in a close relationship with someone, you talk to and listen to that person often, probably everyday! How much more often should we desire to talk & listen to our Savior Jesus?! Sometimes we hear from God through the Holy Spirit inside of us, sometimes we hear from Him audibly, but we CAN hear from God DAILY by reading His Word. Here are some scriptures from the Bible that can bring comfort to the life of a Christian.
“Surely God is my salvation; I will trust & not be afraid. The Lord, the Lord, is my strength & my song; he has become my salvation.” Isaiah 12:2
“As you do not know the path of the wind, or how the body is formed in a mother’s womb, so you cannot understand the work of God, the maker of all things.” Ecclesiastes 11:5
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
“Be merciful to me, Lord, for I am faint; O Lord, heal me, for my bones are in agony. My soul is in anguish. How long, O Lord, how long? Turn, O Lord, & deliver me; save me because of your unfailing love. I am worn out from groaning all night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears. My eyes grow weak with sorrow; they fail because of all my foes. Away from me, all you who do evil, for the Lord has heard my weeping. The Lord has heard my cry for mercy; the Lord accepts my prayer.” Psalm 6:2-4, 6-9
Family & friends who will pray for you and with you are always so very important when going through a hard time…well, ALL the time really! I am so very grateful for EVERYONE who has & will be praying for us on this journey. Thank you thank you thank you for ALL the lovely prayers, cards, & flowers! I also want to thank Marilynd, Brandon’s mom, for the sweet card, the perfectly cute little figurine, and her sweet prayers! Sas…your card was so sweet and we thank you guys for thinking of us & praying with us! Also, the day we got back from the Doc’s appointment where she shared all the information about miscarriages & let us ask questions, we had an oh so sweet surprise on our doorstep when we returned. The flowers were perfectly beautiful, the letter was so sweet and encouraging, and the hand written scriptures on portable index cards were SO necessary! Amboozle, you have always been a special friend to me, but I am especially thankful for your friendship, encouragement, and prayers in this time! We extend a special thanks to every family member & friend who loves us & prays with & for us! Talking about Aaron, miscarriages and reading about other people who had miscarriages. Thank you guys for asking about Aaron and asking how we are doing :) A few years ago, my Daddy became friends with an author named Bethany Kerr who wrote, Answers in a time of Miscarriage. After we lost Aaron, she sent him two copies of the book one for me & one for my Sis who had a miscarriage years ago. The book fabulously includes questions & answers, women’s stories, men’s stories (so neat to hear their perspective), ectopic loss stories, how to comfort, what not to say, and encouragement.
Her website is http://bethany.preciousinfants.com
Healing is a process that must be centered around Jesus Christ and His Word. Thank God I don’t have family and friends like Job ;) Instead I have family and friends who are encouraging & loving. So thankful for prayer, the Bible, and family & friends!
Here are some more scriptures that encouraged me during this time:
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart. Do not be afraid…for I am with you…declares the Lord.” Jeremiah 1:5-8
“The sovereign Lord will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove the disgrace of his people from all the earth. The Lord has spoken. In that day they will say, ‘surely this is our God; we trusted in him & he saved us. This is the Lord, we trusted in him; let us rejoice & be glad in his salvation.’” Isaiah 25:8-9
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you & help you; I will uphold you with my righteous hand.” Isaiah 41:10
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
“Come to me, all you who are weary & burdened, & I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you & learn from me, for I am gentle & humble in heart, & you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy & my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30
“I sought the Lord, & he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.” Psalm 34:4-5
Miryam! Hello my sweetness! I wanted to tell you that I am praying for yall! From one to another, I wanted you to know that you are not alone. In October of 2008 we delieverd Grace Makena at 24 weeks gestation. 24 hours later, we said goodbye to our girl. In January of 09, we found out we were pregnant, we said goodbye to that baby in March of that same year (8 weeks) We had (and you met Kale) in January of 2010. What a blessing he has bee. I November of 10, we found out we were pregnant. It was not in his plan for us to have that baby. We found out that it passed at 12 weeks in February. I had my first d&c of 2011 that same month. We found out in May, that we were expecting again. As before we found out at 12 and 5 that we lost that baby. After a near death experience I had my second d&c of 2011. In November of last year, we found out yet again that we were pregnant. We felt good about this one as well. We had names and everything (we still have those names) We found out at 11 weeks that our baby boy was not with us any longer (we found out he was a he after they did some testing) I had a d&c and now we are resting. They do not know what is wrong with me but I am beginning I am having this happen for three reasons. 1. to allow me to grow closer to my heavenly Father and not rely on my own strength but His and His alone. 2. to help reach out to those who have this happen to them as well and 3. To help bring my earthly father tothe Lord. I just want you to know, that I will be praying for you both and think of you often!! Love you!
ReplyDeletePaige!! I remember your mommy sharing some of your story with me! Thanks so much for sharing with me more! Praise God he is sovereign! I'm so glad we share the thoughts of this type of situation bringing us closer to Christ. I will be praying for your father's salvation. How much better will we be able to minister to other's in similar situations! Thank you...thank you...thank you for sharing!!
Deletethis is Paige by the way...Shari Halterman's daughter
ReplyDeleteMiryam, I enjoyed reading your blog! We as believers in Christ are meant to share in the journey during trials and triumphs. God promises us in His word that He is always with us and when we are not strong enough; He will carry us. I believe that's why the prayers, cards and flowers came when they did to comfort you and Brandon in the loss of sweet little Aaron. I know that God has a plan for you both and can't wait to see what it is.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for reading Thelma!! I truly value your friendship! AND your right!! God is always with us as Christians...I learned that better than ever this year through the loss of Aaron. Thanks girlie :)
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